Ed & Laura — Wedding Command Centre

Overview

Saturday 22 August 2026 · Oxford

St Margaret's Church at 13:00, followed by the reception at The Medley Walled Garden. Guest counts below are live from Supabase (connecting…); budget figures from the Wedding Planner spreadsheet, pulled 7 July 2026.

—Guests confirmed yes

—Declined

—Coming to Friday cricket

£41,315Total budget (est.)

£13,635Still to pay across July–Aug

—Dietary/allergy notes on file

Next six weeks — payment & planning deadlines

Sun 19 Jul

Balliol venue visit (15:00) + final banns reading, St Margaret's

Mon 20 Jul

Dove House Farm balance due

£3,750

Wed 22 Jul

The Graces Photography balance due

£2,240

Fri 24 Jul

Medley Walled Garden balance due

£3,720

Fri 24 Jul

TMD Music (band) balance due

£3,120

Fri 31 Jul

Final planning call with Daniel Walters, 5pm UK

Wed 5 Aug

92 Kingston Road, payment 2 of 2

£805

Sat 8 Aug

Hair & Makeup (Bridal by Charley) balance due

£1,327

Ceremony

St Margaret's Church, St Margaret's Road, Oxford OX2 6RX · 13:00 · Vicar Daniel Walters · Organist Richard Goodall

Reception

The Medley Walled Garden, Medley Manor Farm, Oxford OX2 0NJ · from 14:30 · Contact Chloe Gee

Friday cricket

Balliol College, Master's Field, Jowett Walk, Oxford OX1 3TL · from 14:30, play at 15:30

Catering

Shakespeare Kitchen (Ian Jobbins) · Ottolenghi-style sharing menu, sirloin on the Trailblazer BBQ · £8,571.24 for 120

To-Do List

Merged from Status & Actions + every open thread in the wedding file

Each item below is cross-checked against the latest emails and bookings, so a few status lines have moved on from what's written in the spreadsheet itself. Items in red are genuinely open questions with no answer on file yet.

Church & ceremony

High priorityIn progress

Draft and print the order of service — readers (Rebecca Green, Elliot Greenwood), bible reading (Toni Walsh) and witnesses (Meg West, James West) are all confirmed; the booklet itself isn't made yet.
Finalise the three hymns (opening / mid-service / closing) with Richard Goodall.
Banns: third and final reading at St Margaret's is Sunday 19 July. After it, Zorah Baig at All Saints West Dulwich will email the banns certificate — forward it on to Daniel Walters.
Final planning call with Daniel Walters is booked: Friday 31 July, 5pm UK (by call).

Catering

High priorityContract confirmed

Menu and contract with Shakespeare Kitchen are locked (£8,571.24, 120 guests, confirmed 30 June).
Still open: tea/coffee service, and table linens — venue only supplies paper napkins, so Ed & Laura are sourcing tablecloths themselves.
A new "Estimate 1463" arrived from Shakespeare Kitchen on 6 July, not yet reconciled against the confirmed £8,571.24 contract. Worth checking with Ian Jobbins what it covers before assuming it's just an amendment.
The dietary list sent to Ian Jobbins is out of date. The live RSVP export has ~20 dietary notes on file (see Who's Who → Dietary requirements), well beyond the five originally flagged — send Ian the full current list.
Send the finished table plan to Ian once it's signed off (still outstanding since the 15 June meeting).

Venue & drinks

Medium priorityIn progress

Confirm the keg coupler type with Chloe Gee so she can check whether The Medley has one, or source a non-standard one.
Bring the "Starford Lager" tap badge (and any other beer badges) to the venue.
Confirm how many of each cocktail are wanted for the one-hour cocktail service.
Venue balance of £3,720 due 24 July.
Wet-weather taxi quote still open — ongoing thread with Royal Cars (Mohammed Yahya) for a St Margaret's → Medley fallback if the Port Meadow walk isn't viable in rain; not yet quoted or booked.

Band & music

Medium priorityIn progress

Truly Medley Deeply balance of £3,120 due 24 July.
The draft day schedule lists the first dance twice — once to DJ music at 19:15, and again as "Band – First Dance & First Set" around 20:00. Decide which is real and tell both the DJ and the band.

Photography & video

Medium priorityBooked

The Graces Photography balance of £2,240 due 22 July.
Ed Kirwan is down as videographer — sort a camcorder / equipment plan with him.
No dedicated group-photo slot appears in the schedule between the ceremony ending (13:45) and the walk to the reception (14:00) — worth confirming with The Graces where photos actually happen.

Rings

Medium priorityIn progress

Ed's ring (77 Diamonds, 4mm platinum court) is dispatching 14 July, arriving ~15 July at Peabody Cottages. Nothing more to do.
Laura's ring order is "with the workshop" at Queensmith (confirmed 2 July) but the exact option was never confirmed in writing — plain twist band (£1,110) vs diamond scallop band (£1,440). Worth a quick double-check with Laura.

Suits & outfits

Medium priorityIn progress

Groomsmen morning-suit hire (Moss Bros, regular-fit tails, sky-blue double-breasted waistcoat) enquiry sent 1 July for the 8-person party — Ed, George Stapleton, Mark Stapleton, Chris Murphy, Tom Kilford, Harry Wilson, Tom Stevens, George Rendall. In-store measuring/ordering visit at Moss Bros Broadgate confirmed 6 July — worth double-checking with Ed which appointment slot this covers. Order needs to be ready to collect 4 days before the wedding.
Ed's own suit is still undecided between three trialled options: Percival (personal shopping, 3 June), Moss Bros Broadgate (styling appointment, 10 June), and SELECTED (multiple sizes ordered and delivered 24 June to compare fit).
Chris Murphy is MC on the day, not a groomsman — Ed is sorting him a suit separately regardless (added 6 July).
Laura's dress is done — still need to buy the veil and shoes.
Flower-girl dresses and Theo's outfit are not yet sorted.

Flowers

Medium priorityDecided

Decided: Sara Jakeman at Bloomin' Chic (per the planner spreadsheet's Status & Actions tab — Caroline, the friend option, wasn't taken forward).
1 bridal bouquet, 5 bridesmaid bouquets (repurposed as table décor), 9 buttonholes, bud vases for the tables, and 2 entrance urns moved from the church to the Medley after the ceremony.

Friday cricket day

High priorityIn progress

Food & drink for the cricket day is still unresolved (£500 estimated, nothing booked yet).
Balliol venue visit is 19 July at 15:00 — same day as the final banns reading, so the two need juggling on the day.
RNG Classics car hire: enquiry sent, cars confirmed available 21 August — still need to pick a specific car and confirm the day's plan with Robbie Gillison.
Team sheet is live below and reads straight from RSVPs — drag names in as people confirm.

Seating & stationery

Low priorityIn progress

Two draft table plans exist (see Table Planner) — needs final sign-off, then goes to Ian Jobbins.
The top table itself has two different draft layouts — still deciding between them (see Table Planner).
Stationery — table plan chart, welcome sign, menus, name cards — not yet started.
Table setting — order tablecloths and candles from Jess.

Accommodation

High priorityMostly booked

Cotswold Lodge Hotel: Feature Room confirmed for Ed, 20–23 August.
Dove House Farm confirmed for the bridal party, Thursday–Sunday — balance of £3,750 due 20 July. Ed & Laura also stay here with siblings 23–25 Aug, after the wedding.
92 Kingston Road: payment 2 of 2 (£805) due 5 August.
Groomsparty accommodation confirmed: Airbnb "Spacious Oxford Home in the Heart of Jericho" (Kingston Road), Friday & Saturday nights, booked 5 July — Ed joining them Friday night. George Stapleton staying elsewhere (TBC); Chris Murphy (MC, not groomsman) is at the Courtyard by Marriott Oxford instead.
Guest parking: 2 spaces secured on a friend's driveway at 6A Rawlinson Road via Ed's mum Liz.
Kellogg College enquiry (Aug 2025) was never confirmed — safe to let lapse unless still needed.

Hair & makeup

Medium priorityBooked

Bridal by Charley — deposit paid, balance of £1,327 due 8 August.

Cake

Low priorityNot started

No supplier, flavour or design chosen yet — the one item on the whole list with genuinely nothing decided.

Table Planner

Interactive · marquee layout · live RSVP pool

Drag a guest from the pool onto any seat. The top table sits across the head of the marquee, perpendicular to the room, with seven seats a side (14 total); the four long tables run away from it down the length of the tent, up to 30 seats each (two sides of 15). Drag a seated guest back onto the pool — or use the × that appears on hover — to unseat them. Your layout saves automatically in this browser.

Marquee — top table across the head, long tables running away from it

Top table · 14 seats

Cricket Teams

Friday 21 Aug · Balliol College · England vs Australia & Friends

Only guests who've RSVP'd yes to both the wedding and the Friday cricket day are eligible — drag names from the pool onto a team. Drag a player back onto the pool, or use the × next to their name, to unassign them. Once on a team, tap Kit / Captain / WK to tag their role — a player can hold more than one. Saves automatically in this browser.

Unassigned players

England

Australia & Friends

Day Schedule

Saturday 22 August 2026 · 15-minute blocks

Built from the venue/vendor-facing "Schedule" tab, the wedding-party role assignments, and the narrative weekend plan. Flagged rows are genuine open questions still on Ed's draft, not confirmed plans.

Groomsparty = Best Men & Groomsmen Bridal Party = Maid of Honour, Bridesmaids & Bridesman ⚠ = open question, not yet confirmed

Time	Ed	Laura	Groomsparty	Bridal Party	Family	Guests	Location
Morning — getting ready
07:00	Asleep / free, at the groomsmen's flat	Hair & make-up begins	Free, breakfast at the flat	Hair & make-up alongside Laura	Travelling to Oxford / at accommodation	Travelling to Oxford	Groomsmen's flat, Oxford / Dove House Farm
07:15	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
07:30	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
07:45	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
08:00	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
08:15	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
08:30	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
08:45	Waking, getting ready to run	Hair & make-up continues	Waking, getting ready to run	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
09:00	Parkrun — University Parks	Hair & make-up continues	Parkrun with Ed	Hair & make-up continues	—	Optional — all welcome to join	University Parks
09:15	Parkrun continues	Hair & make-up continues	Parkrun continues	Hair & make-up continues	—	Optional parkrun	University Parks
09:30	Post-parkrun breakfast	Hair & make-up continues	Post-parkrun breakfast	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	Groomsmen's flat / cafe
09:45	Breakfast continues	Hair & make-up continues	Breakfast continues	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
10:00	Breakfast continues	Hair & make-up continues	Breakfast continues	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
10:15	Breakfast winding down	Hair & make-up continues	Breakfast winding down	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
10:30	Showers	Hair & make-up continues	Showers	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	Groomsmen's flat
10:45	Showers	Hair & make-up continues	Showers	Hair & make-up continues	—	—	—
11:00	Showers	Hair & make-up finishing	Showers	Hair & make-up finishing	—	—	—
11:15	Showers finishing	Hair & make-up finishing	Showers finishing	Hair & make-up finishing	—	—	—
11:30	Dressing — into the suit	Getting into the dress (est.)	Dressing alongside Ed	Helping Laura into her dress (est.)	—	—	Groomsmen's flat / Dove House Farm
11:45	Dressing continues	Dress continues (est.)	Dressing continues	Continues (est.)	—	—	—
12:00	Buttonholes, final prep	Final touches (est.)	Buttonholes, final prep	Final touches (est.)	Travelling to church	Travelling to Oxford / church	—
12:15	Final prep	Final touches (est.)	Final prep	Final touches (est.)	—	—	—
12:30	Travel to church	Bridal car to church (est.)	Travel to church with Ed	Travel with Laura (est.)	Arrive by 12:45	Arrive by 12:45 — collect order of service, take seats	Route to St Margaret's
12:45	Waiting at the altar	En route (est.)	At the church with Ed; ushers (Danny Harford, Nick Mann) seat guests	With Laura (est.)	Seated	Seated	St Margaret's Church
Ceremony
13:00	Ceremony begins	Arrives, processes in	Best men stand with Ed	Process in with Laura	Watching	Watching	St Margaret's Church
13:15	Readings & sermon	Readings & sermon	Watching	Watching	Watching — Rebecca Green & Elliot Greenwood read, Toni Walsh reads the bible passage	Watching	St Margaret's Church
13:30	Vows & ring exchange	Vows & ring exchange	Rings handed over	Watching	Meg West & James West sign as witnesses	Watching	St Margaret's Church
13:45	Married — church photos (est.)	Married — church photos (est.)	Photos (est.)	Photos (est.)	Photos (est.)	Filing out	St Margaret's Church
Walk to the reception
14:00	Guided walk across Port Meadow	Guided walk across Port Meadow	James West, Ed Kirwan, Tom Stevens & Elliot Greenwood guide as "Port Meadow Sherpas"	Walking with the group	Walking, or taxi/drive via Binsey Lane	Walking (~15 min, flat shoes recommended), or taxi/drive	Port Meadow
14:15	Arriving at the Medley	Arriving at the Medley	Arriving	Arriving	Arriving	Arriving	Port Meadow → Medley Walled Garden
Drinks reception
14:30	Welcome drinks & canapés	Welcome drinks & canapés	Mingling	Mingling	Mingling	Welcome drinks & canapés, cocktail hour begins	Medley Walled Garden
14:45	Drinks & canapés continue	Drinks & canapés continue	—	—	—	Drinks & canapés continue	Medley Walled Garden
15:00	Drinks & canapés continue	Drinks & canapés continue	—	—	—	Drinks & canapés continue	Medley Walled Garden
15:15	Drinks & canapés continue	Drinks & canapés continue	—	—	—	Drinks & canapés continue	Medley Walled Garden
15:30	Drinks & canapés continue	Drinks & canapés continue	—	—	—	Drinks & canapés continue	Medley Walled Garden
15:45	Guests asked to find seats	Guests asked to find seats	Finding seats	Finding seats	Finding seats	Finding seats	Medley Walled Garden
Speeches & wedding breakfast
16:00	Listening	Listening	Listening	Listening	Speech 1 — Peter Harford, father of the bride	Listening	Medley Walled Garden
16:15	Listening	Speech 2 — Laura	Listening	Listening	Listening	Listening	Medley Walled Garden
16:30	Starter served	Starter served	Starter served	Starter served	Starter served	Starter — peach & burrata salad	Medley Walled Garden
16:45	Starter continues	Starter continues	Starter continues	Starter continues	Starter continues	Starter continues	Medley Walled Garden
17:00	Main served	Main served	Main served	Main served	Main served	Main — sirloin off the Trailblazer BBQ, chimichurri, sides	Medley Walled Garden
17:15	Main continues	Main continues	Main continues	Main continues	Main continues	Main continues	Medley Walled Garden
17:30	Listening	Listening	Listening	Speech 3 — Kate Harford, Maid of Honour	Listening	Listening	Medley Walled Garden
17:45	Speech 4 — Ed	Listening	Listening	Listening	Listening	Listening	Medley Walled Garden
18:00	Dessert served	Dessert served	Dessert served	Dessert served	Dessert served	Dessert — chocolate cremeux with strawberries	Medley Walled Garden
18:15	Dessert continues	Dessert continues	Dessert continues	Dessert continues	Dessert continues	Dessert continues	Medley Walled Garden
18:30	Listening	Listening	Speech 5 — Harry Wilson & George Rendall (joint)	Listening	Listening	Listening	Medley Walled Garden
18:45	Mingling	Mingling	Mingling	Mingling	Mingling	Cocktails resume, tables cleared	Medley Walled Garden
Evening — dancing
19:00	Mingling	Mingling	Mingling	Mingling	Mingling	Cocktail hour	Medley Walled Garden
19:15	First dance ⚠	First dance ⚠	Watching	Watching	Watching	Watching — DJ music per the draft schedule	Medley Walled Garden
19:30	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	DJ music, dancefloor open	Medley Walled Garden
19:45	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	DJ music continues	Medley Walled Garden
20:00	Dancing ⚠	Dancing ⚠	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Band "Truly Medley Deeply" first set begins ⚠ also listed as first dance	Medley Walled Garden
20:15	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Band first set continues	Medley Walled Garden
20:30	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Band first set continues	Medley Walled Garden
20:45	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Band first set continues	Medley Walled Garden
21:00	Dancing / food	Dancing / food	Dancing / food	Dancing / food	Dancing / food	DJ music & pizza (Medley's pizza oven)	Medley Walled Garden
21:15	Dancing / food	Dancing / food	Dancing / food	Dancing / food	Dancing / food	Pizza & DJ continue	Medley Walled Garden
21:30	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Band second set	Medley Walled Garden
21:45	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Band second set continues	Medley Walled Garden
22:00	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Band second set continues	Medley Walled Garden
22:15	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	DJ music	Medley Walled Garden
22:30	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	Dancing	DJ music continues	Medley Walled Garden
22:45	Last dances	Last dances	Last dances	Last dances	Last dances	DJ music continues	Medley Walled Garden
Carriages
23:00	Music finishes	Music finishes	Music finishes	Music finishes	Music finishes	Music finishes	Medley Walled Garden
23:15	Carriages ⚠	Carriages ⚠	Carriages	Carriages	Carriages	Carriages / guided walk to Jericho? — route marked as unconfirmed on Ed's draft	Medley Walled Garden
23:30	Departing ⚠	Departing ⚠	Departing	Departing	Departing	Taxis from Jericho? / guided twilight walk to Walton Well car park — also unconfirmed	Walton Well Car Park
23:45	Day ends	Day ends	Day ends	Day ends	Day ends	Day ends	—

Who's Who

Wedding party, family, and how everyone connects

Pulled from Ed's Life Summary files so the roles above make sense at a glance — who's closest to whom, and why they're standing where they're standing.

Best Man

Harry Wilson

School friend from Magdalen College School, joined age 13. Went to the Ashes First Test in Perth with Ed, Nov 2025.

Best Man

George Rendall

School friend from MCS; former flatmate at Peabody Cottages before Laura moved in. One of Ed's closest friends.

Groomsman

George Stapleton

Ed's brother. Married to Grace Gleave; daughter Poppy turns 2 on 24 Oct 2026.

Groomsman

Tom Kilford

Durham housemate (2nd & 4th year), same as Chris de Souza. Ran the Rome Marathon with Ed, March 2026.

Groomsman

Tom Stevens

School friend from Langford, Gloucestershire; Shandy Shack co-founder.

Master of Ceremonies

Chris Murphy

Close friend — Ed is officiating Chris's own wedding in Catalonia, September 2026.

Maid of Honour

Kate Harford

Laura's sister. Married to Nick Mann; three daughters (Natalie, Georgia, Sophia).

Bridesmaid

Sammy Lee

Perth childhood friend of Laura's.

Bridesmaid

Philippa Nicholson

School friend (Ursuline / Chelmsford). Marrying Steve in September 2026.

Bridesmaid

Jess Findlay

St Andrews university friend.

Bridesmaid

Kirsty Macintosh

Friend of Laura's — marrying Joe Riley 5 Sept 2026, the same weekend as Chris Murphy's Catalonia wedding.

Bridesman

Nic Wells

Friend of Laura's.

Ushers

Danny Harford & Nick Mann

Laura's brother (engaged to Amy Pavlis, son Theo) and Kate's husband.

Witnesses

Meg West & James West

Meg is the mutual friend who set Ed and Laura up on their blind date in August 2018, after meeting Laura on her year abroad in Mexico.

Readers

Rebecca Green, Elliot Greenwood & Toni Walsh

Two readings plus the bible passage (Toni).

Port Meadow Sherpas

James West, Ed Kirwan, Tom Stevens, Elliot Greenwood

Guide guests on foot from the church to the reception.

How Ed & Laura met

Blind date, August 2018, at Bar Elba, Waterloo — set up by mutual friend Meg West, who met Laura during her year abroad in Mexico. Made official at a Tom Misch concert in Brixton, November 2018. Engaged 29 December 2024 at Lake Grasmere.

Immediate family

Ed's parents

Liz & Mark Stapleton

Liz was Deputy Head of the Junior School at Magdalen College School, where Ed and both best men were pupils. Live in Croughton, Northants.

Ed's brother

George Stapleton

Married to Grace Gleave; daughter Poppy. Lives in Deal, Kent.

Laura's parents

Peter Harford & Christine

Separated around 2004/05. Christine remarried to Rick Deacon and lives in Stock, Essex.

Laura's brother

Danny Harford

Engaged to Amy Pavlis; son Theo (born Oct 2025).

Laura's sister

Kate Harford

Maid of Honour. Married to Nick Mann; three daughters.

Dietary requirements & allergies — live RSVP export

Guest	Note
Anna Cooke	Vegan
Laura Harford	Vegetarian
Shruti Ayyar	Vegetarian
Nina Selmer	Vegetarian
Hannah Lear	Vegetarian
Jess Findlay	Bringing 1 vegetarian guest
Grace Gleave	Pescatarian
Harry Wilson	Pescatarian
Emily Phillips	Pescatarian
Maya Kadirgamar & Carlos Mandeville	Pescatarian
Lauriane Flais & Cameron Aughterson	Pescatarian
George Rendall	Pine nut allergy (fine unless eaten; all other nuts OK)
Scott Stacey	Nut allergy
Jeremy Talbot	Allergic to lobster and crab
Chang-In Jung	Allergic to abalone
Katie Armour	Gluten intolerant
James Aughterson	Gluten free
Polly Kilford	Light on dairy, please
Craig Ridley	No cheese
Peter Harford	"Plenty of meat, please"

Key vendor contacts

Catering

Ian Jobbins — Shakespeare Kitchen

contact@shakespearekitchen.co.uk · 01789 453 965

Venue

Chloe Gee — The Medley Walled Garden

chloe@themedleywalledgarden.co.uk

Vicar

Daniel Walters — St Margaret's

vicar@stgilesstmargarets.org · 01865 559409

Organist

Richard Goodall

richard.organist@hotmail.co.uk · approx. £180 fee

Flowers

Sara Jakeman — Bloomin' Chic

info@bloominchic.com · 01865 236450

Classic car hire

Robbie Gillison — RNG Classics

hello@rngclassics.com · 0777 9793509